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Group Classes Can Be The Best Ways to Become Fluid: Here's How

You may be one of millions of people around the world who is secretly gender fluid. Maybe you live with your parents, you are married and live with your wife and kids or you live alone but in an general environment which has no idea of who you truly are.

It is SO important to be safe. Risking talking to your parents or family before they (and you) are ready often leads to catastrophe for people. I want you to be as careful as you can so that you can do this is in a way that is sunny, safe, loving and supportive. I also want you to find ways to find and express you are because honestly without finding ourselves and being ourselves we can not find success and happiness at the level the universe intended for us.


There will be many posts on this topic so please do follow us on facebook, instagram, tubmlr, twitter - whatever you safely prefer to keep up with updates. We also VERY much welcome posts from those of you have other thoughts and tips, and we are always here to help with your questions. I talk about boys expressing themselves as girls because it is my experience but please know how much I adore and support girls who find the same freedom i've found by expressing themselves as boys. You can email me andrea@fluidity.love or DM us on any social account.

One of the best ways to begin to express your fluidity is a sub community that you go to. Yoga, pilates, spin, pole, barre classes are really naturally wonderful and almost always empathetic environments. For myself personally, Soul Cycle was a place that I began to go to as a very square boy but over the time of so many classes together, I have found an amazingly warm community who is quick to tell me when i'm cute. That's LOVE and I can't tell you what it will do you as you walk 2 feet off the ground.

Starting as a Boy is Fine.

You don't have to enter as a girl. You can just be really silent too, if that's your type. You just find your sea legs there and really show your passion and commitment to the practice itself.

The Instructors are Key

Don't feel that you have to go to one instructor. Experiment and try several or many instructors. Find the ones who are just positive by nature, the ones who say things that resonate with you. They will feel a great connection to you if you are committed to the practice and see you improving because of them. It may take weeks or months but it shouldn't take years to have what feels like (and really is) a friendship with one, two or three instructors.

The People Who Follow Those Instructors are Key

One of the most important things to pay attention to with an instructor is the other people like you who go to their classes. Who attracts the most positive people? Who attracts people who seem particularly sweet, adorable, empathetic? You want to quietly and slowly in a very calm way build a connection with those people. A little hello is fine at the start. You might at some time say how you love when they come to class. Small gestures of sweetness like that which show your appreciation for them, how you feel their energy and how it motivates you. Don't force anything so it feels or is false, these connections will happen naturally in your mutual commitment to the practice.

Be Positive, Warm, Sunny

Don't be shy with your energy. Its ok to smile, to make eye contact during class, to enjoy things together. Everyone gets energy from others and if you have energy to give, you can. If the class is a little dancey, even better, let yourself express that in the darkness or privacy of the room others will begin to enjoy class more because you are in it.

Start With Cute Socks and Shoes

Once you are comfortable with the group, you can begin to express yourself in tiny ways. A lovely beginning that is subtle is to get some very cute, very girly socks. Polka dots are perfect, or little colored stripes. Be patient with everyone, they won't notice right away. You can try after the socks to get some Toms (very cheap shoe that is fluid) that are red or some nike's that are pink (girls size chats, you can order from Zappos, i know this can be harder). It is very likely you will get a little comment from someone who's heart is true and genuine and she will say something nice like those are cute or i like your socks. You can smile so brightly back and say they are my favorite.

Look for Cute Girls Tank Tops and Capri Pants

You don't have to show up in a sports bra and skirt to feel like a girl. Capri pants, or 3/4 pants feel SO AMAZING omg. And from H&M or others you can buy very cute little shorts (that works best if you are shaving/waxing). You can start to be smooth, sexy and in these little things that girls wear but in a way that is just cute and adorable and sunny and not scary.

Gender Orientation Isn't Sexual Orientation

So many people get confused with gender orientation and sexual orientation. We assume if you a boy wants to be girly that they are gay. It isn't true for me!! I find guys totally gross. And i'm very monogamous. I like to remind people in the communities that I am fluid in that I have kids, that I'm married. If you do like boys, if you are gay - please know I believe you should be 100% proud of this!!! You be YOU baby. But for those of us who aren't, you can name drop your wife, girlfriend etc. I also find it very helpful because I didn't want any women in these communities to think I was there to hit on them. I just wanted the connections of being cute and beautiful together in a sweaty hour of exercise.

Be Open to Talk About it If Someone Asks

For me, the girls at the front desk of Soul Cycle (who i LOVE and ADORE) started to say "omg you look so stylish" or "omg i love your sweater" and those types of things. I would always just beam with the true energy they had given me and say thank you. At one point one of them said "where are you getting these things". It was so fun to not be ashamed but be proud and say "my wife has been getting me some of these , but really, the women's section of H&M is a gold mine". They ALL every single time laughed and loved and adored - it was not a judgmental thing but a way to share more and more who I really am. Another phrase I use sometimes that is light to help people who seem to be curious and ask a little is to say "i'm bored of boy clothes lately". That seems to have a 100% hit ratio with any girl who is open, they just love that and begin to have fun thinking about what would also look cute on me and my heart just melts and I cry a little when i walk away from them because they are so adorable and were so sweet to me and the world is so beautiful.

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We are writing about things in a way that we hope can be shared with parents, sisters, cousins, spouses. If you are in a position to be able to share an article like this, please know you could help change the life of someone by making it more comfortable to talk about these issues.

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Meet the Fabulous Daria Jane

We spoke to Daria Jane, a 19-year old student in Romania, on thriving and being herself.


How amazing is Daria?

Daria Ioana Bulzan, known as Daria Jane from YouTube is 19 and studies Marketing at Bucharest's Business University. She grew up in Botosani, a small town in Romania, and, at just 11, she moved to the capital, Bucharest, to join a ballet school. At 14, Daria decided to join the acting high school where she graduated from.


"I Fought For Myself, But Was Surrounded by Good People"

How beautiful of Daria's mom?

Who helped you the most to become who you are today?

"Believe it or not, I am the person who helped me the most to become myself, because I find it hard nowadays to rely on others... even though my mother is more than a best friend and we have a special relationship. She helped me a lot as well, morally and even financially at the beginning of my transition. I can mention my friends too, they were very supportive as well. I may say I was surrounded by good people.

I only grew up with my mother, and as I said, she helped me a lot and loves me unconditionally. I'm her only child at the end of the day. My relatives were ok too. I can't remember any awful moments, my family didn't really make it that big of a deal."

"I'm more sure of who I am now than ever"

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When asked if she had to fight for who she is, Daria doesn't sugar-coat the process but also sees the beauty and power in her achievement:

Tricky and tough question. I will say yes though, because in my case, we're talking about transitioning. There is a journey, more-like a"hell of a ride." I have been through cringey and embarrassing moments (a lot of those), surgeries, debates, insults, bullying... and yet here I am, just being me. I think it's a mental "transition" as well, because it made me the strong person I am today. I don't regret anything though, because I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I learned a lot of lessons throughout my journey. Having said that, I'm more sure of who I am than ever.

"I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane"

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Regarding her fans on social media, Daria is very level-headed and has a crystal clear mind as to what she wants to accomplish through her platform and how:

"I don't see them as fans, since I'm not a popular person. I'm just expressing my views in general. that may be highly controversial or not, and I don't aspire to get "more fans", but to get more real (if that makes any sense). I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane. And yes, I'm down to speak at events although there aren't many. About community hmm... I'm not very connected to the people of the trans community, or LGBT in general. I'm surrounded by straight non-trans people all the time and I love it. Believe it or not, I feel like I can forget about this aspect of my life, I try to do what I would've done if I'd been a biologically born woman and focus on my career and my goals. I really don't like to emphasize the fact that I'm trans (it's no secret, but it's no pride either), and this way helped me live normally in a society where these things are often seen as horrible and very controversial."

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Taal volcano eruption in Philippines

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Taal volcano eruption in Philippines

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