How To Be A Girl : The Starter Kit

Femininity is so complex, abstract and beautiful. There are so many ways to get started expressing yourself as a girl. This is just the starter kit send us your own suggestions!!


Be SAFE !!!

Before any other topic, it is so important that you consider how to be safe as you explore.

Do You Live With Your Parents or Depend on Them Financially?
It is often quoted that 40% of homeless teens are kids who played with gender and were abandoned by their parents. This can not happen to you baby. You have to be so very careful. We are working on events, videos and media to educate parents. But for the time being, please understand that even parents who seem liberal and caring are often confused and act in ways that shame their souls and cast them into dark terrible tunnels. The truth is, parents tend to react badly. One way to find out a general position is to bring up a story or media piece about gender fluidity and see how they react. But until you know, keep things hidden. Mostly the odd thing is that parents *don't* want to know. They will almost always miss the obvious signs and think panties were misplaced etc - it is part of a systematic denial they have been actively engaged in for decades. So keep it private, keep it in locked doors and make it something they have the choice to ignore. When you are financially independent you can take the big leap to having them see the honest you.

Start Using Different Language

Language is magic. Start using words that guys normally aren't supposed to. You can do this with your family, with your friends, with your co-workers. It is surprisingly fun and refreshing fro them too. Here's a starter list but please send us your favorites:

Some great words:
Cute, Adorbs, Adorable, OMG, LOVE, AMAZE, gorgeous, stunning, fabulous, sparkly, sweet, darling, honey,

Some great phrases:
"Thank you so much omg" , "You are so sweet omg", "you look so cute", "omg i love your hair" , "you are so sweet, omg", "where have you been all my life"

Some great emoticons:

💟💋💖💙💘💏😍💕💞💔
(。✿‿✿。)
ヾ(@⌒ー⌒@)ノ
(。◕‿◕。)

Start Wearing Bling

Little necklaces, bracelets, a choke collar. They are easy to put on and off so you can try it on with a little blouse and it just makes everything sparkle so so much more.

Start Trying Girls Clothes On

Dresses, skirts, panties, stockings, lingerie. You might choose to go for the girl next door luck, so natural and just ready to go hiking and snowboarding. You might be the hipster chick who is listening to music and has a serious feminist attitude. You might be the super model sexy as anything getting ready for a big night out or in.

You be You baby. Lock the door to be safe and just start trying things on.

You can keep a small budget - you would be amazed the gorgeous things you can get that are $20 or below.

Become a Make Up Artist

There are so many looks you can find. You can get a make up kit like the beauty book which is easy to keep around and start playing with the different looks that work for you. If you need to hide this to be safe, its ok to play in the bathroom with a locked door. Wet wipes make removing it all pretty easy when you need to. And mostly people who don't want to know will magically ignore the little mascara traces :)

Remove Body Hair

Getting waxed at a salon is simply AMAZE. Especially if you have never done it before, it will hurt a little but come on girl. Its not that expensive and they do it really well. The problem is - expect that your skin will freak out a bit after the first time(s). Its ok you still get to be smooth and the reactions get better each time. Highly recommend that you get the "bikini after shave" for girls for bikini waxing that controls the dots. There's also an amazing sonic brush that is like MAGIC if you can afford it

Create Social Accounts for Your New Self

Instagram is a wonderful place to start that is positive. You can DM us if you do and we'll follow you there. You can play with being the new you and expressing this. It's the safest thing to begin to do.

Do Yoga or Soul Cycle / Spin / Barre / Pilates

Working out has to feel sexy baby. You have to feel how you are getting a tight little tummy and getting super hot. Make it a daily habit. Girls really feel so much more pressure than boys to have beautiful bodies. You can feel that too its a beautiful things cutie, just make it a daily habit for an hour you sweat it and stretch it out and set a long term multi year goal of keeping that habit. You will NEVER regret it. Wear cute little pinks socks and things like that when you work out as a reminder

Go Vegan

Girls are sensitive. They are strong and kick ass and of course most women are not vegan. But it helps to go far out there and feel the loss of any life. To behave in a way that is sweet at its core, even in how you eat. You can be strong, and bad ass. But being highly empathetic is incredibly powerful. Also, the hormones from all the soy and such just really does work :)

Send Us YOUR Tips: How Do You Feel Like a Girl?

You can email us fluidity@rebelmouse.com or DM us on social. We welcome guest writers and posts and would love to feature your expressions of gender fluidity.

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Meet the Fabulous Daria Jane

We spoke to Daria Jane, a 19-year old student in Romania, on thriving and being herself.


How amazing is Daria?

Daria Ioana Bulzan, known as Daria Jane from YouTube is 19 and studies Marketing at Bucharest's Business University. She grew up in Botosani, a small town in Romania, and, at just 11, she moved to the capital, Bucharest, to join a ballet school. At 14, Daria decided to join the acting high school where she graduated from.


"I Fought For Myself, But Was Surrounded by Good People"

How beautiful of Daria's mom?

Who helped you the most to become who you are today?

"Believe it or not, I am the person who helped me the most to become myself, because I find it hard nowadays to rely on others... even though my mother is more than a best friend and we have a special relationship. She helped me a lot as well, morally and even financially at the beginning of my transition. I can mention my friends too, they were very supportive as well. I may say I was surrounded by good people.

I only grew up with my mother, and as I said, she helped me a lot and loves me unconditionally. I'm her only child at the end of the day. My relatives were ok too. I can't remember any awful moments, my family didn't really make it that big of a deal."

"I'm more sure of who I am now than ever"

How cute is this couple?

When asked if she had to fight for who she is, Daria doesn't sugar-coat the process but also sees the beauty and power in her achievement:

Tricky and tough question. I will say yes though, because in my case, we're talking about transitioning. There is a journey, more-like a"hell of a ride." I have been through cringey and embarrassing moments (a lot of those), surgeries, debates, insults, bullying... and yet here I am, just being me. I think it's a mental "transition" as well, because it made me the strong person I am today. I don't regret anything though, because I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I learned a lot of lessons throughout my journey. Having said that, I'm more sure of who I am than ever.

"I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane"

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Regarding her fans on social media, Daria is very level-headed and has a crystal clear mind as to what she wants to accomplish through her platform and how:

"I don't see them as fans, since I'm not a popular person. I'm just expressing my views in general. that may be highly controversial or not, and I don't aspire to get "more fans", but to get more real (if that makes any sense). I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane. And yes, I'm down to speak at events although there aren't many. About community hmm... I'm not very connected to the people of the trans community, or LGBT in general. I'm surrounded by straight non-trans people all the time and I love it. Believe it or not, I feel like I can forget about this aspect of my life, I try to do what I would've done if I'd been a biologically born woman and focus on my career and my goals. I really don't like to emphasize the fact that I'm trans (it's no secret, but it's no pride either), and this way helped me live normally in a society where these things are often seen as horrible and very controversial."

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Fluidity.Love Mission Statement

Civilization is in the beginning stages of a massive paradigm shift from a rigid and role-based society to one that is fluid. Fluidity in roles impacts our lives in every aspect. We are learning to be fluid in our careers, moving through experiences but following passion. Almost all the great discoveries of humankind were made by someone who was fluid, moving from one career/skill/focus to another. A key first step any individual makes to finding themselves is by rejecting a role they were given. They may have told you to be a doctor, a lawyer, a writer, a farmer, but it was when you say no and find your own path that you find success and happiness.

The first role we are given, even before we are born is gender. Unfortunately, in the role-based paradigm, gender is the third rail. Forty percent of homeless teens are kids who played with gender and were abandoned. But fortunately, in the fluid paradigm, people are finding tremendous success, love and happiness through brave explorations across gender border lines.

Our mission is to accelerate this paradigm shift, making it safe, fun and vibrant for everyone to take part in. This might be as a parent, supporting your baby who is growing to be someone authentic, aware and enlightened. This might be as a sister realizing her brother is finding his femininity. You may be the wife or boyfriend or girlfriend of someone who loves you very much and is beginning to know themselves better through gender fluidity. Our mission is to help everyone understand, support and love the people who are brave enough to find themselves.

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Taal volcano eruption in Philippines

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Taal volcano eruption in Philippines

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